tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post6996069563958502670..comments2023-12-23T04:56:29.702-05:00Comments on Ferule & Fescue: Self-indulgent summertime retrospectiveFlaviahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17832765671541392835noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-79946304907716345972007-08-26T16:59:00.000-04:002007-08-26T16:59:00.000-04:00Sounds like you and I have had fairly similar summ...Sounds like you and I have had fairly similar summers in a lot of ways. I've definitely learned a helluva lot about myself these last few months, and it's been painful and terrible and terrifying and liberating. My best wishes to you.Scrivenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922358016805022637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-88779701541144694082007-08-24T13:39:00.000-04:002007-08-24T13:39:00.000-04:00Dude, Evey, you're sweet, but what you (and my col...Dude, Evey, you're sweet, but what you (and my colleague) saw really falls into the category of "getting a little emotional." When I'm full on crying? It's all puffiness and redness and snot. Which, I don't know: I've never considered awesomely attractive.Flaviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832765671541392835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-23567498017979713942007-08-24T13:16:00.000-04:002007-08-24T13:16:00.000-04:00just a note that flavia, you are gifted in that yo...just a note that flavia, you are gifted in that you are an attractive cryer. by contrast, i look like a sodden roll of toilet paper when i cry. just add that to your list of things to appreciate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-12493045186448589282007-08-23T18:15:00.000-04:002007-08-23T18:15:00.000-04:00Nabil: that's a reasonable question, but I guess I...Nabil: that's a reasonable question, but I guess I mean that the presumption that one is <I>so unique</I> and <I>so complicated</I> that no one else could ever possibly understand one is actually a kind of vanity, or at least is the result of being rather self-absorbed--more obsessed with someone else liking and understanding YOU than with really reaching out and making an effort to understand and connect with that other person. <BR/><BR/>I don't mean to criticize anyone else who feels or has ever felt this way, and there may be very good reasons for some people to think this, based upon traumatic past experience. But in my own case, I'm inclined to think that it was (is?) kinda adolescent.Flaviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832765671541392835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-33087587724801301782007-08-23T17:40:00.000-04:002007-08-23T17:40:00.000-04:00The fear that no one will understand or know you -...The fear that no one will understand or know you - what exactly makes that narcissistic?Lucienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991287827933849844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-54698437826925122122007-08-22T21:20:00.000-04:002007-08-22T21:20:00.000-04:00A lovely post...it makes me happy to read about pe...A lovely post...it makes me happy to read about people *growing*, at this stage in our lives. It's hopeful.Hilairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033740943173352249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-9394532872755100632007-08-22T18:33:00.000-04:002007-08-22T18:33:00.000-04:00Wow, Flavia - what an amazing post - so much said ...Wow, Flavia - what an amazing post - so much said in such a small space! I'm glad that this summer has made you realize some good things - about yourself and your friends. I'm sorry it's sucked daily, but it sounds like there's been some sweet tucked into that bitter as well. I hope your school year can suck some of that angst away and that your classes are as exciting as you hope!<BR/><BR/>I hope we both end up at a conference together soon - any plans in the near future? Such fun to meet up again...medieval womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457130525946143002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-5439649358119590022007-08-22T16:58:00.000-04:002007-08-22T16:58:00.000-04:00I miss you. Remember how we felt watching the end...I miss you. Remember how we felt watching the ending of Nights of Cabiria? Happy-sad. That's how I have been feeling generally these days. Maybe it's this damn weather getting me down, or the schizo nature of almost-fall, but I think there's something good around the corner for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27054305.post-40725579080513265762007-08-22T15:23:00.000-04:002007-08-22T15:23:00.000-04:00yes, i feel the same way about summer in general a...yes, i feel the same way about summer in general and this summer in particular. and i should have followed your lead by not trying to blog stuff that is basically unbloggable and should have remained so. <BR/><BR/>i'm glad that you found some deep and formally unknown reserves in yourself. this makes it worthwhile. work is good, though, and i'm ready too.gwoertendykehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00542058287462910446noreply@blogger.com